12 Tips for a Grumble Free Holiday Season

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The holiday season, spanning from Thanksgiving to Christmas and into the New Year, is a time for family, gratitude, and celebrating God’s blessings. But let’s be real: it can also be a season filled with overstimulation, changes to routine, and, yes, the occasional (or frequent!) grumble from our kids. When routines are disrupted and sugar levels spike, even the most peaceful child can start to act out. As homeschooling parents, we know that creating a warm and joyful atmosphere takes preparation—and a lot of prayer!

If you’d like to make this holiday season a little less stressful and a lot more joyful, here are 12 tips for keeping grumbling at bay and focusing on the things that matter most.

Prepare

1. Set Expectations Early
   Kids often misbehave simply because they don’t know what’s expected of them. Talk through your plans for the season and how they might look different from the usual routines. For example, if there are certain activities where they need to be extra calm, let them know in advance. “We’re going to Grandma’s, and I know she loves quiet time in the afternoon. We’ll be respectful of that, and then we’ll have plenty of playtime afterward!”

   
   

2. Share the Calendar
   Holidays come with packed schedules and events. Involve your kids in the planning process by creating a simple holiday calendar. Mark special activities, family gatherings, and even down days. Giving them a visual of what’s to come can help them feel more secure, excited, and prepared for what’s ahead.

   
   

3. Pack an Activity Bag for Each Outing
   For events, gatherings, or even long shopping trips, have each child pack an “activity bag” with books, coloring items, or small toys to keep boredom at bay. A few simple, familiar items can make a huge difference in how they handle long waits or adult conversations.

   
   

4. Take Care of Your Own Heart
   Our own stress and overstimulation often trickle down to our kids. Before big events, take a few moments to center yourself in prayer. Psalm 139:23 reminds us to ask God to “search our hearts.” When you feel your patience running thin, pause, take a breath, and ask God to give you the peace to handle whatever comes your way.

Plan

5. Stick to Routines as Much as Possible
   Holiday events can be disruptive, but keeping familiar routines like mealtimes, quiet times, and bedtimes can help children feel grounded. Even if you’re just having a quick, simple dinner around the table, those little routines bring comfort and stability.

   
   

6. Include White Space on the Schedule
   While it’s tempting to pack in as many festive activities as possible, kids need some downtime to rest and recharge. It’s okay to take a few days to simply watch a movie, read Christmas books, or just play together at home. This white space will help them handle the busier days better.

   
   

7. Let Them Choose Favorite Traditions
   Ask each child about their favorite holiday activities. Whether it’s baking, watching Christmas movies, or taking a drive to see lights, let them pick 1-2 favorite things. When we let our kids help shape the season, they feel more engaged and invested—and they’re less likely to feel disappointed.

   
   

8. Prepare for Overwhelm
   Crowded gatherings, new faces, and noise can be overwhelming for kids (and for us!). Give your child permission to tell you when they’re feeling overstimulated, and plan a quiet corner or room where they can take a break. A few moments away from the hustle and bustle can help prevent meltdowns and allow kids to recharge.

   
   

Practice

9. Stand Firm on Boundaries
   Boundaries are essential during the holiday season, even when family and friends are watching. Don’t give in to misbehavior because it’s a special occasion. Gently but firmly reinforcing boundaries, even during special events, teaches children the importance of respect and self-control.

   
   

10. Offer Small Rewards for Good Behavior
    Positive reinforcement works wonders. For instance, if they stay by your side while you’re out shopping, let them pick a small holiday treat when you’re done. Or if they help set the table for Thanksgiving, reward them with some extra playtime. Rewards give kids something to look forward to, encouraging them to develop good habits during the season.

    
    

Pray

11. Be a Prayerful Problem-Solver
    When kids act out, it’s often because they’re struggling with something they can’t easily express. Pause to ask God for wisdom in understanding their needs. James 1:5 tells us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God.” Praying for insight can help us respond with empathy and grace, even in challenging moments.

    
    

12. Teach Them to Pray About Their Feelings
    Children sometimes don’t realize that they can bring all their feelings—good and bad—to God. Model this by praying with them, asking God to help them be kind, patient, and gentle, even when they’re overwhelmed or frustrated. Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us that we can bring everything to God in prayer, and He will provide us with His peace.

    
    

Embrace a Grateful Heart This Season

The holidays are a wonderful time to focus on gratitude and shift our hearts from grumbling to thankfulness. Take moments each day to notice the small joys and give thanks as a family. Gratitude can transform our hearts and set the tone for a joyful, Christ-centered season.

Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever. - Psalm 136:1

Wishing you a peaceful and grumble-free holiday season,
Tricia Goyer

Go Grumble Free, Mom!

It wasn’t always easy and the results weren’t immediate, but after a year of no grumbling, our life as a family has radically changed. Now, instead of finding fault and looking for excuses, we find joy in the journey–whether rain or sun. We have learned to laugh at our struggles and look for God in the small inconveniences. Day in and day out we are growing and becoming more thankful for all we have.

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